I don't take your side. I don't take your partner's side. I take the side of your goals. Couples therapy isn't a verdict on your relationship, it's a rehearsal room for the one you actually want. We work hard, we stay in the suck when we need to, and yes, we laugh. Let's freaking go.

Teenagers aren’t broken, lazy, or ungrateful. They’re human beings doing something extraordinarily hard, mostly without feeling understood by any adult. What looks like anger is almost always fear. Here’s what they’ve been trying to tell us, the biology behind it, and the one shift that rebuilds connection: lead with curiosity, not correction.

If you are an adult woman who was recently diagnosed with ADHD, or if you strongly suspect you have it and are still waiting for someone to take you seriously, I want to say something first: you are not dramatic. You are not making it up. And you are definitely not lazy. What you are, most likely, is someone whose brain was never properly understood.

So what do you do about it?

You stop treating burnout as a discipline problem. It isn't. You can't out-hustle exhaustion; that's like trying to fix dehydration by running faster.

I'd rather collaborate with you than pretend an invaluable tool on your phone doesn't exist. When we look at it together, we can figure out how to use AI safely, ethically, and proactively, as a supplement to real, human, context-rich care, not a replacement for it.

Because that's the line for me. AI can be a fantastic tool. It is NOT a therapist. It can't sit with you in the hard silence, understand the thing you didn't say, lend you its stable nervous system, or know your whole story. That part's still mine, and yours.

The core idea: your brain isn't broken. It's different. And different isn't less.

Affirming therapy starts from the belief that neurodivergent brains are a natural variation in how humans are wired, not a defect to be corrected. So instead of asking "how do we make you normal?" we ask "how do we make life work for your brain?"

I don't think you're broken. I think you're colorful. (Bünte is German for exactly that: colorful, vivid, more-than-one-thing. Felt fitting.) My job isn't to sand down your edges so you fit some beige idea of "normal." It's to help you understand how your brain works, how to work with it rather than against it, and build a life that actually fits you.